Why the Holidays Aren’t Always Happy
Maintaining Your Mental Health When the Holidays Are Hard
The holiday season is often portrayed as a time of joy, togetherness, and celebration, but for many, it can bring feelings of stress, anxiety, and even sadness. From financial strain to family conflicts, the pressure to be "happy" during this time can be overwhelming.
If you're finding it difficult to navigate the holidays this year, you're not alone. Let’s talk about some reasons why the holidays aren’t always as happy as they seem, and how you can take care of your mental health during this challenging time.
The Pressure to Be Perfect
The holidays come with high expectations. Whether it’s creating the perfect holiday meal, finding the ideal gifts, or having picture-perfect family moments, the pressure to make everything look flawless can take a toll. Studies show that 64% of people feel stressed during the holidays due to these expectations, with many feeling anxious about their ability to meet others’ standards or keep up with the celebrations. When reality doesn’t match the idealized vision we see on social media or in movies, it can lead to frustration or even feelings of inadequacy.
Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)
The shorter days and lack of sunlight during the winter months can trigger Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD), a type of depression that occurs during the fall and winter. According to the National Institute of Mental Health, about 5% of adults in the U.S. experience SAD, with symptoms including irritability, fatigue, changes in sleep or appetite, and difficulty concentrating. If you're already feeling down, the added stress of holiday obligations can make it even harder to cope.
(Check out our blogs on combatting SAD - part 1 & part 2)
Financial Strain
Holiday spending is another common stressor. Whether it’s gifts, travel, or special meals, the financial burden of the holidays can cause significant anxiety. According to the American Psychological Association, 72% of Americans report feeling stressed about finances during the holiday season. If you’re already dealing with financial pressures, the added expenses can feel overwhelming. It’s important to remember that it’s okay to set boundaries and manage your spending in a way that feels comfortable for you.
Family Dynamics and Loneliness
For some, the holidays highlight family conflicts or unresolved issues. It can be difficult to navigate family gatherings, especially if there are strained relationships or difficult conversations. According to a 2019 survey by the American Psychological Association, 38% of people experience stress related to family during the holidays. On the other hand, if you’re spending the holidays alone, you might feel isolated. Loneliness during the holidays is common, and it can amplify feelings of sadness and depression.
Pre-Existing Mental Health Conditions
The holiday season can be particularly challenging for individuals with pre-existing mental health conditions, such as anxiety, depression, or bipolar disorder. During this time, the combination of added stress, disrupted routines, and heightened expectations can exacerbate symptoms.
For example, those with anxiety or OCD might find the busy schedules, social gatherings, or family dynamics overwhelming, leading to heightened nervousness or panic. Similarly, individuals with depression may experience a sense of loneliness or sadness as they compare their reality to the idealized holiday images portrayed in media.
A study from the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) shows that 64% of people with mental health conditions report feeling more stressed during the holidays. Moreover, for people with bipolar disorder, fluctuations in sleep patterns or substance use during the holidays can trigger mood swings or even mania. For those already managing mental health challenges, it’s important to prioritize self-care and seek professional support to help navigate these stressors.
How to Take Care of Your Mental Health During the Holidays
While the holidays might not feel “happy” for everyone, there are steps you can take to support your mental health:
Set realistic expectations: It’s okay if everything isn’t perfect. Focus on what matters most to you, whether it’s spending time with loved ones or taking care of yourself.
Prioritize self-care: Make time for activities that help you relax and recharge, whether that’s going for a walk, reading, or practicing mindfulness.
Reach out for support: If you’re feeling overwhelmed, don’t hesitate to schedule an appointment to talk to a professional. It’s important to ask for help when you need it.
Take the First Step Toward Feeling Better
If you're finding the holiday season challenging, you're not alone. Kathryn Werner, PA-C and Stacey Whitaker, PA-C are here to offer the support and care you need to get through this time. At White Pine Mental Health & Wellness, we provide compassionate, personalized medication management to help you manage stress, anxiety, and depression. Whether you’re struggling with seasonal affective disorder, family dynamics, or the pressure of holiday expectations, we’re here to help.
Schedule an appointment with Kathryn or Stacey today to begin your journey toward better mental health this holiday season. We're here to support you in Alabama, Idaho, and Florida through our accessible telepsychiatry services. Let’s work together to make this season a little easier for you!
